In previous posts in this series, I’ve written about emotional
sobriety, feeling
overwhelmed, and finding
a personal sanctuary. Now I’d like to talk more about the concrete things
we can do to keep our emotional and spiritual balance during the difficult, terrifying,
and outrage-evoking recent months.
For me the first step is always admitting that what I have
been doing isn’t working. I can get absorbed in one dreadful news story after
the other, and with each round I lose more perspective and calm. My adrenaline levels get progressively higher. Sometimes – often! – it seems as if nothing
else is happening in my life except reacting to yet another threat to the
people, organizations, and principle that are important to me. Old wounds
re-open; the ghosts of family tragedies (like the pogroms my father survived as
a boy) re-awaken. I fear for my Jewish family and my queer daughters and sister and my trans
daughter-in-law, for my black, Muslim, and Hispanic friends. I despair for
the future of the entire planet. In other words, I need help.
Sometimes all that’s necessary is for me to admit that
matters have gotten out of hand. Then I can scale back on my news consumption
enough to think clearly what actions I would like to take. And especially what
would be enough for the moment so that I can leave the topic and focus on other
aspects of my life – my family, my writing, my local community, the beautiful
redwood forest that cloaks the hills outside my windows. Playing classical
music on my mother’s piano. Knitting hats for charities in poor areas of the
country and world. Cuddling with the cats.
Recently I have noticed how those times of relative sanity
come to a screeching halt. There are always new reasons – excuse me, Reasons.
Like a hurricane or three. I’ve seen references to “outrage fatigue” but I
suspect what is happening is outrage overlap.
There isn’t sufficient time in between to return to balance and stay there,
catching our breath, before something new and dreadful reels us in.
A recent
article on the American Friends Service Committee blog suggests ways to stay
strong “when the news is exhausting.” The folks at AFSC know a thing or two
about coming from a place of compassion and peace during difficult times. A
Quaker-founded organization, they’ve been around since 1917. After WW I, they
set up kitchens to feed hungry children in Germany and Austria. During
the 1930s and through World War II, AFSC helped refugees escape from Nazi
Germany, provided relief for children on both sides of the Spanish Civil
War, and provided relief to refugees in Vichy France. (I had friends who
worked in Austria after WW II through AFSC.) They received the Nobel Peace
Prize in 1947. So I’m apt to listen to their suggestions:
1.
Cut back on news. Eliminate or restrict the
number of times per day you check social media. This in itself isn’t new, and I’ve
done these things successfully, but not the strategy of using printed news instead of internet. Print
is slower and often more thoughtful, especially long-form journalism. Someone
has had a chance to think what all this means before publishing it. Plus, the
delay means an extra buffer between events and reaction. I think of it as an
ongoing exercise in faith that if I need
to know about what’s going on in the world, I’ll find out.
2.
Focus on the issues that matter most to you. I
notice I do this, too, although the reminder is always welcome. I can’t sustain
being outraged about every single horrible thing. I do better when I
prioritize, picking the top few issues and following them more closely. And it’s
not essential that my friends and I have the same top issues. For example, our
neighbor is Native American, and the crisis at Standing Rock was very important
to him; he knew people who were directly involved. I acted as an ally, while he
was less concerned with queer and trans rights, one of my primary issues.
3.
Read something else! I love this suggestion. I would
add, Listen to something besides news and talk shows when you’re driving. During
the election, I loaded all 6 CDs of the Howard Shore music for Peter Jackson’s The Hobbit movies into the player in my
car and listened to them over and over. Although there are dramatic passages,
the flowing, narrative quality of the music transported me to, well, Middle
Earth. I was a much nicer driver as a result. My current refuge is audio books
of Jane Austen novels. I highly recommend a mini-vacation at Pemberley or
Mansfield Park. When I return, I am a saner person, too.
What strategies help you get through these days? Books,
music, refreshments of the spirit?
No comments:
Post a Comment